Well it’s not quite that easy and as anyone who has ever been a teenager or is still a teenager will tell you. Growing up can is a right pain in the … Of course, there is a huge step from being a teenager to becoming an adult. But that step is mostly driven by parents, peers, hormones and hard lessons.
The problem is, that most of us have had such a tough time making it to adulthood, that we leave off growing up, settle down into a normal life and wait for old age, grandchildren and death.
There is much more to life than waiting to die and in between times we manage to pack in a lifetime of experience. But just what is that experience? We know from ability and aptitude testing that people tend to peak in these work related skills around their mid thirties and for the majority, it is all downhill from there. For many a lifetime’s experience is just a few experiences repeated over and over, for some it is the same old mistakes, but for a select few, it is an opportunity to keep growing and learning.
After we reach physical maturity we still have a lot more growing to do. Mental maturity is still out there for the taking. There is more to the body than flesh and bones. The greatest challenge in life is to achieve maturity in all of the other areas, spiritual, social, intellectual, interpersonal and intrapersonal to name but a few areas.
What happens to people in their mid thirties that leads to this decline for so many. We see the decline, not just in mental capacity, but also in health and fitness. People tend to become more set in their ways. Their circle of friends begins to contract, best friends become strangers. We become more set and stubborn about change. Younger people and new music begin to irritate us. Technology and change in the workplace becomes a chore where in the past it was a fun challenge.
Is it just a coincidence that by the mid thirties most people have settled into their career and their family life, the back is broken on the mortgage and they have the obligatory 2.5 kids, the dog and 2 weeks in the sun every year? Have we lost our hunger for life? Or is it that the job has become a means to an end? Just an ATM in the corner that feeds the family and the mortgage? Is the next step up the ladder, just too far away?
Many of us reach a kind of life plateau once we have achieved what we set out to achieve and resort to dreaming about what might have been, but taking no action. Fortunately many more set their sights on higher targets. Some may park their jobs to one side and become active in their communities, using the skills they have learned in the workplace, or more often, using skills they have that are not being utilised on the job. They become sports coaches of local teams, they become active on residents committees or local clubs, some even go into politics.
The point is that most of us are driven to find an outlet for our natural or acquired abilities. Some find it in work, some in family life and some in their communities. Occasionally frustration may set in along with some other social factors and people may be driven to find their outlet in crime, but I’m not going there yet.
My focus is on growing up in the workplace. One of the problems it that the vast majority adopt a parent/child relationship with their employees, or even a Theory X approach. To enable the development of Leaders in the workplace, organisations need to learn to change their culture. Unfortunately, while many have tried to do this, their short-term focus has gotten in the way. It takes a little over a few weeks to turn a child into a functional adult as many of us have found out. Likewise, achieving leadership ability is a bit beyond a course or programme, otherwise we would all be leaders by the time we leave school or college.
Developing leaders is like nurturing your children, it takes time, sometimes a lifetime. On a more practical basis, there are ways of speeding the process up, if you know what is going on and how it works. However even at best, you are looking at 12 months or more. The great thing is that the outcome is a sustainable performance that will also include in the role of the new leader the nurturing of the next generation of leaders and a fundamental change in the way people look at growing up.
Leadership is part of growing up. It goes beyond achieving your goals. It is about realising your unknown and untapped potential. It all there lying dormant beneath layers of ignorance and the conditioning of a lifetime. The time is ripe for mankind to move onto the next step in evolution. The fuller utilisation of the brain that makes us what we are. Leadership ability has some interesting side benefits that go well beyond work. Leaders make better lovers, parents and friends. Real genuine leaders that is, not just modified managers.
This has been a slightly longer post than intended, but then, the issue is a pretty serious one. I’m planning on putting almost a whole lifetime of studying human nature into this thread. Become what you can become, just grow up!